Month: January 2003

I saw this monkey at bugis and had to get it for clié.

Joy is in the house.

How i look forward to nights these days, the cool and relaxed feeling with the gentle crys of our baby girl longing only for the comfort and security that parents can provide. In a new and unfamiliar world where its bright and cold.

With her ear rested on my chest, my heartbeat and the calming rubs on her back reassures her that everything is gonna be fine. Yes its all gonna be fine…

Myths, old wives tales, taboos, superstitions and mysterious believes have been surrounding me all the while, but with Pearl’s pregnancy, delivery, confinement and also the arrival of our baby, the amount of its-better-to-believe kind of rules is really taking a toll on me.

Many of these so called myths are always brought into the picture with “they say that if you do this, eats this, drink that, do something a certain way, certain catastrophe will befall onto you and when you are old, you will suffer multiple pains and aches and nobody will pity you, because you did not heed our advice when we told you.”

I’m a logical person and its very very extremely difficult for me to abide by certain traditional, mystical practices and apparently powerful supernatural hocus-pocus thingy majiggy. If someone can give me a good explanation, I’ll be more than willing to accept it, but the best reason I’ve heard so far is “that’s what they say…”.

Because of this stressful predicament, I try not to outwardly show too strong a resistance, but try to appreciate the good intention of others who are clearly following the blind when they say “that’s what they all say you know, you should believe it.”

Like take for example, “They say that you should not move furniture when a pregnant woman is in the room.” That to me is acceptable as accidents can happen and the pregnant one might be hurt or even suffer a miscarriage, that’s my explanation, but when I ask for an explanation from those that told me about it, the best they could do is “That’s what they say…”

During confinement you should not shower or have a bath, you should not even wash your hair or hands with water. You cannot eat almost everything and you definitely cannot drink almost everything. If you don’t follow strictly to these rules, you will suffer sever rheumatism, pain and aches that you will regret when you are in your 40s. I’ve did a bit of research and have consulted doctors and they mentioned that its true only in cold countries as the water will get into your system and might cause pneumonia, but in humid countries like Singapore, its not a problem.

Who are THEY? Where are THEY? Why is this group of THEY disseminating such practices without any good explanation? I think THEY are busy doing THAT thing over THERE.

We all pay thousands of dollars to doctors for their knowledge and experience on conditions that we have, but sometimes when doctors are shunned, it really saddens me as some would rather chose to believe unreliable sources then the doctors that they are willing to pay. It doesn’t make any sense to me.